I see a lot of German references, I can't see if you are - but, having said that, Wilkommen! I am originally from Namibia (guys must Google if they don't know where), now in South Africa. Namibia used to be Suedwest Afrika - as in Deutsch Suedwest Afrika, so we all have a smattering of German.
All of no consequence - I hope you will enjoy the site. Oh yes - glad you have given it up, well done
I transcribed Metheny's Solo on his tune New Year off the Unity Band album 2012. For anyone that doesn't know what "transcribe" means. It means to learn completely by ear and then write it out. I first wrote it out then practiced it until I could play it. Any Metheny fans here? Cheers
I'm not an expert at anything, but I have experience in many things. I have been a Beatles fan for 50 years, but that endows no special expertise.
I'm an irascible curmudgeon, cranky about everything. Then, I lost half my hearing and my ability to discern pitch accurately. In about half an hour I'm going into get yet another steroid shot in my ears. That's a joy I can't describe. I don't hear worth a damn and hearing aids suck. After that I got extremely cranky. For about the past 5-6 years, I write and record music without really hearing it properly. As they say on Tralfamadore, "So it goes."
Luckylarry's advice is very good. Once you can count 1,2,3,4 you will have your foot on the ladder. Tap your foot too as you count and just start by doing this when you are listening to a recording of a song without you playing anything.
The big question is "can you read the notes? i.e, can you read whole,half,8 and 16 notes and rests? If you can here is how you can greatly improve your rhythm. If you can't that is where to start. It will take about an hour or so to learn these basics. Then the fun begins,
1. Forget the metronome for now.
2. Listen to the song many times before trying to play it
3. The most important step is to COUNT OUT LOUD the beats. I repeat...COUNT OUT LOUD the beats.
4. go slow and one bar at a time. When you count the proper beat slowly you can slowly get faster.
After you can play the notes or chords (technique) you can add a metronome or as I do use a drum machine (not as monotonousness as a metronome).
I can promise that this is the secret. Count out loud and start slow.
You can do it.
When I say count out loud the beats I mean count 1,2,3,4 for etc. Tapping a foot really helps as well If this doesn't make sense let me know and I will try to help.